Posted: 28 Feb 2013 07:32 AM PST
By Leo Babauta
We all long for genuine human connections, and even in a busy life with lots of people around us, these genuine connections can be hard to find.
We socialize online, but that’s not very genuine (why I quit Facebook). We work with people, but often that’s task-oriented and not human connection-oriented. We might have family and friends in our lives, but when we are busy or distracted by the online world, those connections might fade.
In the last year or two, I’ve made it a point to have fewer friendships, but with deeper connections … while also being open to the miracle of a random encounter with another human being. This philosophy has paid off in more genuine connections with my family and friends, but less busy-ness.
Today I’ll share a few reasons for creating genuine connections, and my strategies for creating them.
Why Genuine Connections Are Important
There are many reasons, but these are the ones that strike me as important:
Life is better when you make genuine connections. You are happier, less isolated, more creative, with new opportunities.
Let’s look at how to make these important connections.
How to Make Genuine Connections
Here’s the thing … you can’t just force a connection to be what you want it to be. Many people make this mistake in different ways: they try to create a connection with someone who doesn’t want it, or hope the person responds in a certain way, or want the other person to be something they’re not, and so on. The key to an unforced, genuine connection is openness.
So here’s what works for me:
There’s more to creating genuine connections, but you don’t want to read a book. If you do, I recommend you check out Scott Dinsmore’s new course, Connect With Anyone. This is not an affiliate link or ad, just a recommendation of a great resource that also happens to feature my story of how I overcame my introvertedness, and more.
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